"Others can be a huge source of support or sabotage when it come to achieving your goals."
I stole this from Jillian Michaels' tweet this morning. I love the meaning behind this quote. Most of the people in my life are here as support for my journey but I have ran into a select few that try to get me off my path to success. It's very irritating when you are doing well at something and a person walks into your life and says, "It will be ok, you can go off your diet for today, or for a week".
They say if you do something for 28 days, it becomes habit. I believe this. Today is my 26th day and I can't imagine giving in because im so used to what I have been doing this month. When someone comes along and tries to derail me it can be frustrating. They weren't there for me these 26 days since I have started this, I don't think they should have any right trying to get me to do what they would rather me do.
Sorry, I need to vent today. It just gets to me how some people would rather you mess up/fail so it works better for their lives.
Thanks to everyone that has been on the "support" end of that quote, it means alot. It keeps me encouraged to write this everyday and stay on my journey just by seeing my page count go up. It warms my heart to know so many are reading what I have to say.
I love it! My biggest sabotager--Tim! At first anyway. After a couple of months he finally got the idea that no matter what he did I wasn't giving in to all that he presented. By that I mean the foods he would bring into the house, brownies he would bake, etc... He finally started trying to help, rather than hinder. I don't know if it was because we had a bet going and he was not winning, although he would never admit that. Generally though any other people who would do it to me were people who were overweight and for some reason did not seem to want to see me succeed. Hmmm, makes you wonder why. I think it has to be their own personal issue. Fear of something--like if your weight changes, you will change. Or your relationship will change. I mean lets face it, we have a relationship with our food. Some stronger than others. And this journey will change your relationship with your food. You will look at it differently and it will become something different to you. Know what I mean? Glad you don't mind my comments, but I find it good to have someone to talk to about this stuff since I still struggle
ReplyDeletesherry that's such a great comment on having a relationship with our food. if you are an alcoholic or drug addict, you can recover and never deal with those substances again. if food is the problem...we still have to eat to survive. it's such a complex relationship. we have to deal with the emotional reason that made us turn to food for comfort or avoidance. we have to recognize the emotional triggers that could derail us at a moments notice. we have to change our relationship with food. and you are so right when you say that and it will become something different to you. at this point in my weight loss journey, i can't decide if it's friend or foe yet. i find myself becoming emotionally unattched to it, which surprises me. maybe a survival tactic to make it through to the end. even when i have slipped up, the food i was dying to have didn't even taste as good as i remembered it to be. or worse yet, it made me sick and would punish me for about 2-3 hours as my body would reject all of it! but in the end, good healthy whole food as nature intended is our friend and will keep us happy, healthy and thin ;)
ReplyDeleteand hannah.... about those who try to sabotage our efforts, whether it's intentional or not....i compare to a tornado. they fly into our life and at a moments notice try to get us off track. they create a huge mess in our plan. they leave and go back to their own life and we are stuck alone picking up the pieces of the mess we now need to deal with. question is...was is worth it? most often not. sometimes the answer is yes, like a special occassion (like roca's in the mail...haha) and there's a price to pay for it on the scale. but we now have the power within ourselves to say no or to get back on track and do what we know we need to do to accomplish our goal for the marathon.
ReplyDeletei guess initially, we should ask that person...if you are my friend and support person, then why are you asking me to fail at something that is so important to me?
Hey baby keep on keepin on! Ur doing good u have been around alot of tempting things lately and u haven't given in once u calculate every portion of everything u eat! Although u have some "haters" out there I kno ur strong enough to stick to your plan and goals I've seen u try diets time and time again and this time I can tell ur dedicated completely! Keep up the good work doll i love you
ReplyDeleteSherry- Jay wasnt meaning to be my sabotager at first but me changing my eating habits like I did put a cramp in his style, he still enjoys his pizza and beer and for me its gotten alot easier to say "pass" as the weeks go on. Also, maybe they do think I will change if my weight changes, or our friendship I dont know. But what I do know is if they dont want me to be happy I shouldn't have them as a friend! I love your comments, its nice to have people participating. Alot read, but not many comment. So I thank you :)
ReplyDeleteMom- You are right to say they are like tornados, we are the ones always left to pick up the pieces ALONE. Because no matter how much people try to support, this is a journey we do on our own. WE CAN DO IT! And again, I am sorry for being your sabotager (roca) WHOOPS! And also, if someone wants to see me fail, I know they arent my true friend and its nice to find out now. Thank you for always supporting me :)
Jay- Thanks for all your support my love. You truly have been there for me. I love you!